Man's Dilemma Part 3

However, also deeply rooted, in males, is his fear of his mother caretaker?  She was the first to frustrate his physiological needs, to tell him no, to become angry with him, and even withdraw her love from him. The father caretaker can yell and spank but that does not compare equally to the more long-lasting fear effects of the mother figure withholding her love. Eventually, the male can challenge his father physically. However, there is no adequate defense or safety from a mother withholding her love. She is the most powerful female figure in the male’s universe.  The positive [love] and negative [fear] emotions related to this mother or Madonna figure, results in man’s unconscious search, drive and expectations or illusions for an unconditional loving figure. He is also afraid of losing her love.  As a result of these  unconscious vulnerabilities, man has to compensate by creating , establishing and implementing the tools of religion, government, politics, economics and psychology in an attempt to reduce or cope for his anxiety, fear, dread and inadequacy related to the female . Males have accomplished this compensation mission of keeping females fearful, subjugated and brainwashed. Man has been so successful that women have bought in and have become second-class, subservient, and dependent. However, during the last 50 or 60 years, we have witnessed a pushback. The “pill,” the American feminist movement in the 60s provided that impetus.

The male’s constant search for happiness propels him repetitively over and over with behavior that results in poor and limited outcomes when it comes to union with the opposite sex. He’s fearful and conflicted of submission or surrendering himself with her since he also is up against his self-preservation survival instinct. It’s no wonder and shouldn’t be a surprise, that man has a built in conflict dynamic. This brief and limited exposé only tells part of man’s story. Remember, there’s a female distrust story as well.

References

Erikson, Erik H, Childhood and Society, W. W.  Norton and Company Incorporated.

Horney, Karen, Feminine Psychology, W. W. Norton and Company Incorporated.