Parental Expectations with Damaged Self-Esteem Part 3

Parental Expectations with Damaged Self-Esteem  Part 3

College and professional coaches are “good” models in that they have no difficulty being enraged when the call goes against their team. This reminds me of a time when during a Ohio State and Michigan football game, Michigan’s Thom Darden made this spectacular interception guaranteeing Michigan’s win in 1971. Sports Illustrated referred to it as a moment of glory and” a play that defines college football.” Woody Hayes would have none of that.

Woody went up and down the sideline, knocking over yard markers while ranting and raging. The officials wound up giving him 2 unsportsmanlike penalties on that play against the Buckeyes.

I met, Bill Quimby that notorious referee a few years ago, at Thom Darden’s book signing in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. We talked about that call and that Woody was instrumental in removing Bill as a Big Ten football referee. Bill wound up being an NFL football referee for many years. I never asked Bill if he thanked Woody for his promotion.

In essence, it doesn’t take much in our society for us to experience frustration. With frustration, it becomes personalized with the release of anger as a result. That anger can be directed inward or verbally or physically directed outward. Signing a parent’s code of conduct is just a signature. How can a deeply over invested, frustrated parent or individual be expected to control that negative, tension filled emotion by signing a document?  Neither the 10 Commandments have not worked very well in controlling hateful, aggressive, emotionally based behavior, nor has the “death penalty”.

We know that the US leads in the manufacture of guns and the number of deaths per capita in the world. We also know that the ownership of guns can be political, and that one’s opinion regarding such can be emotionally based. As long as we